my response was "shadow is my best friend"
Shadow holds all of the things we wish to disown. The ugly the unsightly the mean the rejected the magnificent.
All that hides in the shadow is overflowing with energy - vigorous, alive.
Reaching into that knowing full well that the things that lurk there will take us out of our shiny self image and into a guts and blood and shit realm is scary. Scary that we may be faced with the fact that we are not all good all nice all sweet as we are so rigidly required to be by the society we live in.
it is not for the faint of heart
or maybe it is
because what lurks in the shadow is heart strengthening. Claiming shadow makes us strong and whole. It helps us repatriate the parts of ourselves and our lineage that have been orphaned and that weaken us by scratching at our door in the middle of the night. Groaning to come in.
I am working on a self study course with phone calls for people who are ready, really ready, to meet with shadow and learn about the wholeness of you. This is the culmination of a couple of years learning and wrestling with and dancing with shadow. Being scared. Being sick of running. Learning to turn up. It is beautiful and whole making and i am really proud of the gift of this.
If you are interested in this then email me here. It has been one of the best learnings of my life