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turning up

3/28/2014

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here i am turning up with my pores and pimples and wrinkles and love in my eyes and my art at my back because that is who i am and i want others to join me being who they are too.
More and more i see how the world really needs us, needs people who are willing to find the courage to turn up

Not just show up and mill about on the sides of the dance hall trying to look cool and disinterested but come ready, with their dance shoes on and their requests for the dj and their packed lunch with them so they can nourish themselves on the long haul.

It requires couraging - my friend Marian was talking about that with me this morning - the practice of showing courage, over and over having the courage to see part of your work in the world to be brave.  Building the muscle of courage by using it just like you have a personal trainer saying "yes take that risk with your art/or your parenting/or your relationship, and give me two more, dig it in work it!!!" 

Even if what you do today which feels brave seems tiny compared to what someone else is doing.  Compared with what you might do in 6 months (or what you did years ago when you were in a different phase).

Turning up with courage in your heart will mean that you will be one of those who breaks a part of the mold.  Who tries something new.  Makes a paradigm shift.  Steers the boat on a slightly different course.

Makes a difference.

Part of what i have learned is that new and shift and different are like acid to some people.   They burn and hurt.  

It is hard for kind and empathetic people to see this and not to feel the hurt and the burn too.  But is it cause to stop?  No.

The way humans have done things on the planet in the overculture (beautiful word used by Dr Estes to describe the dominant cultural norms... it has such a looming sense of the ominous for me which makes it perfect) are hurting our planet.  There is no way to describe it differently and still tell the truth.  Those that feel hurt by change are often clinging to what they know (even when it is broken, or more especially when it is broken) and any push to change threatens their sense of safety... it can get scary being asked to try something unfamiliar.

When i worked in a horrible institution we came up against this a lot.  I remember I worked really hard to build a sense of change as a gift for people in my job which involved staff training.  I worked up a programme that engaged staff in the sense of possibility, was aimed at taking them out of their routine for 4 days and showing them why change was needed and how good it could be.  I was selling water to dehydrated people in some cases and selling pneumonia to people with bronchitis in others... it was tricky... but I remember one man.  In his early 60's.  He had worked in the institution all his adult life and had learned to treat the people who lived there like they were a nuisance and a thing.  The institution had encouraged this.  But it was time to change.  I really was nervous about having him there and had to draw on all my convictions and values and work pretty damned hard to keep him engaged but at the end of the course he told me that in all his years at work he had never thought of the clients as people.  He had never had the chance to learn.  He had always had staff training meted out as a punishment (make a mistake go to staff training kind of mentality)  He felt like one of the toughest nuts to crack and yet when he got the chance to soak in it gently he could see.  He could entertain the possibility that change might be for a good reason.  And that he might even be able to come along for the ride.  

So like that gentleman, we need to change what is considered right and valid and true.  And the only way we can do that is when we turn up as who we are.  In our truth.  In a "here i am, this is what i have to offer" kind of a way.  

And we get to choose what that will look like.  

Do you want to wear blue pyjamas to do your world changing work.  Well great - you get bonus points for that!  The world needs a sense of fun and play to return to this business of being human.
Do you want to be able to cry when you feel moved to and not be shamed?  Well cry.  Show people your tears.  

When we turn up fully as we are it gives others the people to turn up too.

And the world needs us to turn up in new ways.

What can you do?  How can i support you?  Do we need a community of couragers?

Tell me!!! 
Go!!!



6 Comments
sorrow
3/30/2014 11:32:42 am

I speak lovingly of a shift in Value, because I believe with every fiber of my being that the more love I give, the more Love I give.
I believe that when we speak softly and earnestly about valuing LIFE all life above and beyond anything else, that we can and will create a better world.
That simple. Because I believe that the inverse IS always true. That balance is something to strive for, and understand that we can Not always be there, but reaching for there.. is a good thing.
I love coming here Jane, you always touch my heart so deeply.
(((LOVE)))) You

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Jane
4/8/2014 07:15:42 am

the more we love the closer we are to our purpose... you are so full of love Sorrow... I treasure you

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Anne Copeland link
3/31/2014 02:24:19 pm

I really loved this, Jane. I am 72, and the older I get, the more I am willing to accept myself as I am, and to accept most folks as they are too. I did say most because some I would rather stay away from because of the negativity or evil they carry with them. I do love being a courager myself because I have had a full life with many heart experiences - some which made me think about not wanting to live another day and some that made me almost fly because I felt so happy. Well, I lived through it all and it was good because I have more compassion now for others going through some of these things, and also I am able to offer more to others because of it. It's funny but I lived life pretty much at the lower end of the financial world, not because I couldn't have done more and had more, but because I liked being just the way I was - a brown shoe living in a black shoe world. I am who I am and I don't need things to make me feel a sense of deep joy in my heart. I have worked with physically challenged and developmentally challenged adults and children for years, and when I can do things to make their lives better - not as defined by those who have to have measurements and standards, but by seeing a happy glow in a face or a sense of feeling good about ones self. I love that feeling of being able to reach out and give a big hug to a child I know is having a hard time - perhaps a child living in a group home whose parents are in prison or where the child has been removed for other reasons. I love to teach creativity to children and watch them fly with it. I learned of you through Jeanne Hewell-Chambers, one of my women heroes. Wow, I am glad I did. You have such wisdom and goodness in your soul. You are an amazing and inspiring person for certain.

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jane
4/8/2014 07:16:56 am

honoured to have you here Anne... loving your brown shoe in a black shoe world self <3

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ANNE COPELAND link
3/31/2014 02:54:00 pm

On the war against women aging, I actually am quite happy with my age. I am OK with the way I look now. Yes, there are scars, wrinkles, varicose veins, age spots, probably cellulite, and Heavens knows what else. It is a joy to be alive, to know that I can wear things from the thrift store because they are things I like and not what is necessarily fashionable. I have never been what you would call a raving beauty, but I have beauty in my soul and kindness for other living animals, plants and people. I live simply and find joy in the smallest of things that some people might never notice. I remember the day I found baby grass sprouting in my backyard of my little mobile home park. I was so overjoyed, it is hard to describe. Or when a plant I rescued starts to flourish. I enjoy recycling things into new things I can use, and I love to create art from found objects. It's those happy, tiny moments that bring me joy, the moments I really remember. I just want to live each day being happy with where I am, who I am, what I have and the things I do to try to make the lives of others better. Being perhaps average but not a raving beauty keeps those who focus on shallow and phony things away from me. I don't begrudge them their lives, but that will never be my way. I am a simple person with simple wants and needs, and it is a rich and genuinely happy way to live. I have accomplished a lot in my lifetime, but what is most important is for others to benefit from that. When I am gone, that is what people will remember. I give thanks for every day, every minute of my life now. It is a joy to meet like-minded folks in this life.

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Jane
4/8/2014 07:18:40 am

are you sure you are not a Buddhist lama Anne :-) your simplicity and richness are beautiful, no amount of consumption can bring people to this place of awareness and joy that you describe <3

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